Do a quick search and your brain will run through a gamut ranging from inspirational, make a list and conquer diatribes to let it slide and be happy with yourself zen posts.
I guess I'll add my own two cents. I'm a blogger. It's what I do.
By Kimberly Loomis
If you know yourself, then set yourself up for success.
Okay, that's it! Have a great day!
An example: I suck at follow through. I get all excited about something, for instance, exercise, well...now...okay, I've never really gotten excited about exercise...more like...driven.
Okay, so I get all driven (grammar nazis give me a break here) about exercise for a short while and then the driven-ness wanes and suddenly I realize I've gone 22 weeks without doing what I had set out to do on a regular basis.
I'm no rocket engineer (my father in law is though, so I occasionally get to hang out with one, so that's cool) but exercising once every 22 weeks doesn't exactly qualify as "on a regular basis".
What happens there?
I'm not a psychologist, either, in fact I am a chronic mis-speller of any word with psy- at the beginning of it. However, at 33 I'm learning to understand myself a little bit at least.
What happens is that I set myself up for failure.
For me, and please tell me I'm not the only one, making a resolution, no matter how solemnly, is like blowing bubbles.
I reverently dip that little plastic wand into the soapy mixture, purse my lips and gently release a stream of air I filtered through my very own lungs specifically for this moment.
A magic little ball of rainbowy goodness emerges, carefully separates from the wand and floats in the air like a chubby little fairy.
I stare in awe. It's simply magical.
Now, I can just go on and make another one, right? But that one bubble, the one I created all by myself, is gone. Never to return. I can make a million like it--soap is cheap, as are promises, but none of them are going to last more than a few, fleeting moments.
As are my "resolutions".
So, what's a girl to do?
I'm an extrovert. I NEED other people around me to get inspired, energized and to keep me from falling into the deep dark abyss of depression.
No pressure, friends. :D But, seriously, I need to be around people. Like, people who aren't my little people, who don't need me to wash and feed them and keep them from falling off the top bunk and breaking their own arms or throwing their siblings from top bunk and breaking their arms.
So, if my goal is to do more writing/art/photography stuff, I need to make sure I'm hanging out with people that inspire me. Go to shows (if only I knew some awesome local musicians to partake of...) go to parties, hang out with my inspiring friends...get out of the freaking HOUSE! It's so much easier to stay home, especially when I've been working out of the house a lot. But if I spend more time feeding others and not feeding myself, I'm going to starve.
If my goal is to get healthy, I need a partner. Now, I love my husband, but he is never going to tell me not to eat that ice cream at 10 o'clock at night, or to get off my butt and go for a walk, even if I ask him to. It isn't his nature, and if I stake my success in something that is against my own nature based on input from him that is against his nature I am now setting us BOTH up for failure. Not good.
I have a friend, you can find her here who is going to help me this year with my health goals. That's what I need. Not to forge on this road alone or with someone who isn't the 'coaching' type, but with someone who has been through my struggle, can relate, understand and has the ability and drive to cheer me on. Yippee!
And so it goes, my friends.
What do you want to do? What do you need to make that happen?
If you're like me, and a list on your bathroom mirror will just serve to make you stop using that particular bathroom to avoid the guilt an unfulfilled list gives you, are we stuck feeling crappy about ourselves?
I think not.
Though our current culture values guys like Tony Robbins, I'm not the dog-eat-dog type. I'm not going to claw my way to my goals. And it isn't that there is something wrong with me, it's that there is something wrong with that advice for me.
I don't wear lipstick because I don't think it looks right on me. I prefer tinted gloss. I've had plenty of people disagree with me and tell me how great a dark shade of maroon brings out my eyes or cheekbones or nose hairs or whatever. I just can't stand the way lipstick feels on my mouth. Whenever I see myself in the mirror with it on I get a little startled. Does that mean there's something wrong with me? Of course not.
Same with achieving goals.
There are many paths to the same destination, carved out for people of differing abilities and personality types. There are also many paths that are open to some and closed to others. I doubt I'm ever going to be able to afford the toll on the Personal Trainer & Nutritionist road. That's okay, though. My path is slower, it's going to take me longer to get where I'm going, and I'm okay with that.
It's a great start.
Photo by me, no you can't have it but you can use it if you ask permission and give me credit. :)